How to ask someone out

By Emilie Paiement & Claudia Lauzon

Rejection is always one of our biggest fears when we start to like someone. However, we must try to overcome that fear to be able to get what we desire. Taking a leap of faith and trusting our instincts is the best we can do when it comes to those situations.  One of the biggest steps in asking someone out is mustering up the courage you have to make that big step forward.

Part 1

1. Figure out if the person you like is already in a relationship. If yes, abort mission.

2. Mentally prepare yourself for the possibility of rejection. Don't go into it being too confident or you might blow it.

3.  Find out what the person you like is interested in and to see if you like the same things.

4. Figure out how you’re gonna ask the person out. Ex: Text, note, Facebook, through a friend, over the phone, in person.

Part 2

5.  Strike up a conversation.

-Send a friendly text

-Approach the person

Make sure you smile and make eye contact, to show that you’re interested in the person.

6.  Talk about the things that you know he/she likes to keep their attention or see if they are interested in you.

7. Once you feel comfortable enough start talking about relationships to make sure that he/she actually wants to be in a relationship at that moment.

8. If they are not in a relationship, go ahead and ease your way into your question.

Part 3

9.  Did everything go as planned?

If yes: Congratulations! You have a new boyfriend/girlfriend! And i hope that everything works out well for you too crazy kids!

If no: Let them know there are no hard feelings. And that you still want to keep the existing friendship you had with the person before, without making things awkward.

Part 4 Important step- How to let them down easy (rejection)

If you are the one being asked out remember to let the person down easily. You don’t want to come off as being rude or mean while rejecting a person. Being nice is very important when it comes to this step. Let them know that you still want to be friends with them but you’re not interested in them that way.

Possible excuses while rejecting someone:

"My mom just texted me, i have to go home."

"It’s not you, it’s me."

*doesn't answer your texts*

"I don't want to talk to you anymore"

"No thank you"

"Oh"

"You're a really cool guy but I don't think of you that way"

"We can be friends?"

If you receive a comment like these ones, she/he is not for you.